Supplemental Material

For those of you who have purchased the Grow Your Healthy Relationship Cards, we thank you from our hearts, and we hope that you are using the cards and that they have been helpful in finding new ways of relating to and connecting with your partner. On this page, you will find two complimentary PDF handouts that we hope will assist you in using and working with the cards even more effectively.

The first PDF handout, The Grow Your Healthy Relationship Cards Checklist, gives you a full listing of all of the cards in the deck.

You can use this Checklist to keep track of your progress as you use the deck, especially if you have been selecting your cards at random. This Checklist will allow you to see at a glance which cards you have reviewed, and which cards are still waiting to be explored.

We have also provided a column in which you can “rate” the cards, on a scale from 1-5 (5 being the highest value), as you go through the cards. You can use this rating based upon how meaningful and useful that card and quality is to your unique relationship. Should you ever want a “tune-up” for your relationship in the future, this checklist and the ratings column will help you identify which cards to review first.

The second PDF handout is entitled:  Tips for Applying the Communication Skills Cards

Good communication is probably the single most important skill that will help you develop and grow a healthy relationship.  We wanted to offer you this handout, to present a more thorough explanation of each of the Communication cards skills.  Also, we included some illustrative examples, to help you learn, understand and then practice these communication skills to the fullest.

As you read this handout with your partner, we invite you to discuss the sample scenarios, to see how each of you would react if this were an actual situation in your own relationship.  Feel free to improvise, to have fun, to explore how you might have responded to these different scenarios.  Consider two versions of those conversations; what you might have said “before” knowing these communication skills versus how you could communicate “after” using the featured communication skill.

Remember that you can avoid many unnecessary misunderstandings and repair the occasional upset using good communication.  We encourage you to become familiar with these different communication skills, and then practice, practice, practice… until these become second nature.